I spent all of my teen and adult years up until now suffering from frequent migraines. Nothing had worked up until this past week when I seemed to find a combination of things that helped me where nothing else ever had. First I felt relieved by this and then I felt appreciation.
Appreciation, because every day that I learn something new I am thankful. It doesn’t matter if it’s something small or something larger. It doesn’t matter if it’s something, like the migraine relief, that helps me personally or something that helps others. It could be something super useful, or it could just be something I find interesting.
If we leave ourselves open and receptive to new things and ideas instead of just going through the motions in life deciding we already know all we need, won’t life be more rewarding, more interesting, more satisfying? Every new piece of information could invariably lead us to new opportunities and rewards, spiritual and/or temporal. (Plus learning just for learning sake just feels good.)
Personally, the more I learn, the more complete I feel, and the more I understand the world, and myself.
Learn Perpetually and Grow Exponentially. Today. Tomorrow. Always.
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Sometimes it’s not us, but the people around us that are having a bad day. Our friends, family, the people closest to us. Sometimes they verbally direct their anger at us, even with it has nothing to do with us. For many of us, our first instinct is to yell back and get angry and well.
Handle With Care:
First carefully, calmly and thoughtfully ask the person what thing/s happened to upset them.
If they DON”T want to talk about it yet then don’t push them. (Something I need to work on because I’m a “Fixer.”)
If they DO want to talk about it, just listen.
Take a deep breath. (You need it, as much as they might.)
Give them space for a few minutes to calm down.
Return and kindly and calmly let them know that while you understand they are having a tough time you’d appreciate they not direct their anger at you.
Give them more space.
Depending on the nature of your relationship you may choose to help them with things not related to their problem to help ease tension. For example: If it is my SO’s turn to do the dishes or cook and they are having a crap day then I’ll just do it for them and they’ll return the favor later.
I understand that we all deal with stress differently and that what may not make me upset may make my friends and family upset. I’ve struggled in the past with being the sort of person, who just tried to fix everyone and everything and in the process just made it worse, because I was unable to recognize some people’s need for space and/or privacy even if was just a temporary thing. Also, I tended to react without listening fully.
I’ve been trying to apply these steps in my real life and I hope it helps some of you like it does me.
A big sign of personal growth is realizing that you are dealing with things in your life better than you used to, but realizing this only after the situation occurs or at least much further into it. (As opposed to actively having to figure out how to mentally handle every new thing at its start.)
When you work hard enough to be a better, kinder, more centered you, eventually it comes more easily.
I don’t just write about trying to live a better, more positive, freer, karma friendly life. I try to live it to the best of my own abilities. I’ve spent so much time, focusing on getting rid of negative thoughts, working towards better karma, happiness, and overall balance, that I can now do things that would have been much more challenging in the past, often without even thinking about them. I just start innately doing the best possible thing. Whether it’s being kind to people I’ve have issues with in the past or dealing with the big stuff life throws my way that I can’t control with as much grace and dignity as possible. (I’ve also seen a remarkable shift in my stress levels lowering.)
Be your own Architect, build your self up to be centered, clam and kind. Negativity is easy, but it will never very make you the best you can be.
We make mistakes, and we come up against challenges frequently but it’s how we handle these things that mold us.
Do we break down?
Do we give up?
Do we pass our troubles off to someone else?
Or do we work hard, push on through, and ask for help when needed?
Of course some things we cannot control. In these cases, it is how we handle them that matters.
If we can handle the hard moments, with dignity and pride, and put as much good energy into a bad energy situations as possible we will see more positive outcomes. Even if the only outcome is better mental stability, peace of mind, happiness, and the creation of more positive energy in the universe.
The problems we face and mistakes we make only drag us down when we let them. Of course, we are not perfect, but if we strive to have a better outlook on life, we will see how much better our lives can be.
I have one cat that will literally drink water from anything…a bowl, the sink, the toilet if you let him, even the snow off your shoes. Animals understand the importance of natural resources. (My cats even cherish every box and bag made from every tree we destroy.)
We know that we are made up of mostly water, we know we need it to survive, but we forget how important it is anyways. We start to filter our water at home for freshness or we buy from fresher sources overseas where it is yet untainted and all this as we continuously destroy the resources around us, in the name of money and progress. Water is life if we destroy our water sources we destroy ourselves.
We think of karma in terms of how we treat each other. Karma is also determined by how we treat Mother Earth.
A mother kills her infant, she does so on purpose. Should she be punished?
A mother kills her infant, she does so on purpose. She does so because her infant is crying, and her village has been attacked if she does not smother the child many more lives than that one life will be lost. Should she still be punished?
Many people will answer the first question. Yes, she needs to be punished without a doubt, there is no gray area in it. Yet we did not take the time to ask more questions, we not take the time to understand, and we were quick to judge. If we asked more questions, we might see that even something like taking another’s life is not always exclusively good or evil. Some choices are so hard, no one should have to make the. Yet, people have to make hard choices for themselves and their families, sometimes often. We should strive to be patient and understanding of their struggles, if even if believe we would have made a different choice in the same situation. Even if their choice is against our personal outlook. (Unless it is directly causing harm (especially without good reason) to us or others.)
We were not put on this world to judge one another. We are here to learn from and understand each other and evolve from those experiences.
Yesterday was a completely off-kilter, unbalanced day. I couldn’t seem to do anything without tripping myself up, there seemed to be chaos buzzing in the air. I ended up putting the Nawang Khechog station on at work to focus.
( Nawang is a wonderful Tibetan flute player and composer.)
I know some of us will do anything to protect ourselves from chaos and negative energy. We all have our own rituals, whether mental or physical. (Even if it’s just that morning cup of coffee.) Personally, I love some good sage. I love the smell of it when it burns, and it reminds me to be centered, balance and serves as a sort of psychic protection.
Does anyone else have any rituals daily of otherwise, they used to ready themselves for the day and whatever it might throw at them?
Today I had someone online, a friend of a friend, end their response to an earnest inquiry I made with telling me if I wasn’t helping people who are being actively oppressed then I was the oppressor. That neutrally doesn’t exist. (We are going to come back to the way I see this as untruth, in my personal case.)
“If you are not helping the oppressed you are the oppressor,” gives me flashbacks to my youth and “If your not part of the solution your part of the problem.” Different words meaning basically the same thing.
Every situation in this world is a matter of perspective with both or all sides thinking they are right.
When Obi-Wan said,”Only the Sith deal in absolutes,” this is actually a hypocritical statement. The statement in itself is an absolute, which would make him Sith. Telling someone if they are not on your side they are on the enemy’s side is an absolute, and we can not have balance our world or in our lives living in absolutes or imposing them on other people.
Now this person writing to me didn’t know me personally. I am a peaceful, pacifist, queer, pagan, who does not identify with either major American party and am the last person to be an oppressor. It is both possible and okay for me to not take sides on an issue when I am searching for facts and questioning everything before I decide how I feel. I do have causes that I support, where I feel like I have enough information and I feel like a group of people is being oppressed and I need to stand by them. (I’ve stood on the side of the Water Protectors in whatever ways I can.) Perhaps, I could see that person’s statement holding validity if I stood by and did nothing, and wasn’t looking for information to form my opinion, which isn’t the case.
If I am not standing on the side of people you think are being oppressed, it’s not for lack of empathy or compassion, I’m just working through the mounds of information, misinformation, and hate before I can take a stance. I need to understand before I can stand up. If that makes some people label me as something I am not, so be it. I know I am a kind-heart amazing, human being made up of understanding, compassion, emotions and logic, no one can take that from me.