I spent all of my teen and adult years up until now suffering from frequent migraines. Nothing had worked up until this past week when I seemed to find a combination of things that helped me where nothing else ever had. First I felt relieved by this and then I felt appreciation.
Appreciation, because every day that I learn something new I am thankful. It doesn’t matter if it’s something small or something larger. It doesn’t matter if it’s something, like the migraine relief, that helps me personally or something that helps others. It could be something super useful, or it could just be something I find interesting.
If we leave ourselves open and receptive to new things and ideas instead of just going through the motions in life deciding we already know all we need, won’t life be more rewarding, more interesting, more satisfying? Every new piece of information could invariably lead us to new opportunities and rewards, spiritual and/or temporal. (Plus learning just for learning sake just feels good.)
Personally, the more I learn, the more complete I feel, and the more I understand the world, and myself.
Learn Perpetually and Grow Exponentially. Today. Tomorrow. Always.
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Redirection: Handle With Care
Sometimes it’s not us, but the people around us that are having a bad day. Our friends, family, the people closest to us. Sometimes they verbally direct their anger at us, even with it has nothing to do with us. For many of us, our first instinct is to yell back and get angry and well.
Handle With Care:
- First carefully, calmly and thoughtfully ask the person what thing/s happened to upset them.
- If they DON”T want to talk about it yet then don’t push them. (Something I need to work on because I’m a “Fixer.”)
- If they DO want to talk about it, just listen.
- Take a deep breath. (You need it, as much as they might.)
- Give them space for a few minutes to calm down.
- Return and kindly and calmly let them know that while you understand they are having a tough time you’d appreciate they not direct their anger at you.
- Give them more space.
- Depending on the nature of your relationship you may choose to help them with things not related to their problem to help ease tension. For example: If it is my SO’s turn to do the dishes or cook and they are having a crap day then I’ll just do it for them and they’ll return the favor later.
I understand that we all deal with stress differently and that what may not make me upset may make my friends and family upset. I’ve struggled in the past with being the sort of person, who just tried to fix everyone and everything and in the process just made it worse, because I was unable to recognize some people’s need for space and/or privacy even if was just a temporary thing. Also, I tended to react without listening fully.
I’ve been trying to apply these steps in my real life and I hope it helps some of you like it does me.
A big sign of personal growth is realizing that you are dealing with things in your life better than you used to, but realizing this only after the situation occurs or at least much further into it. (As opposed to actively having to figure out how to mentally handle every new thing at its start.)
When you work hard enough to be a better, kinder, more centered you, eventually it comes more easily.
I don’t just write about trying to live a better, more positive, freer, karma friendly life. I try to live it to the best of my own abilities. I’ve spent so much time, focusing on getting rid of negative thoughts, working towards better karma, happiness, and overall balance, that I can now do things that would have been much more challenging in the past, often without even thinking about them. I just start innately doing the best possible thing. Whether it’s being kind to people I’ve have issues with in the past or dealing with the big stuff life throws my way that I can’t control with as much grace and dignity as possible. (I’ve also seen a remarkable shift in my stress levels lowering.)
Be your own Architect, build your self up to be centered, clam and kind. Negativity is easy, but it will never very make you the best you can be.