Category Archives: Thought

Perpetual Motion: Growth and Learning

 

I spent all of my teen and adult years up until now suffering from frequent migraines. Nothing had worked up until this past week when I seemed to find a combination of things that helped me where nothing else ever had. First I felt relieved by this and then I felt appreciation.

Why, appreciation?  

Appreciation, because every day that I learn something new I am thankful. It doesn’t matter if it’s something small or something larger.  It doesn’t matter if it’s something, like the migraine relief, that helps me personally or something that helps others. It could be something super useful, or it could just be something I find interesting.

If we leave ourselves open and receptive to new things and ideas instead of just going through the motions in life deciding we already know all we need, won’t life be more rewarding, more interesting, more satisfying?  Every new piece of information could invariably lead us to new opportunities and rewards, spiritual and/or temporal. (Plus learning just for learning sake just feels good.)

Personally, the more I learn, the more complete I feel, and the more I understand the world, and myself.

Learn Perpetually and Grow Exponentially. Today. Tomorrow. Always.

-Star

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Redirection: Handling With Care

Redirection: Handle With Care

Sometimes it’s not us, but the people around us that are having a bad day. Our friends, family, the people closest to us. Sometimes they verbally direct their anger at us, even with it has nothing to do with us. For many of us, our first instinct is to yell back and get angry and well.

Handle With Care:

  1. First carefully, calmly and thoughtfully ask the person what thing/s happened to upset them.
  2. If they DON”T want to talk about it yet then don’t push them. (Something I need to work on because I’m a “Fixer.”)
  3. If they DO want to talk about it, just listen.
  4. Take a deep breath. (You need it, as much as they might.)
  5. Give them space for a few minutes to calm down.
  6. Return and kindly and calmly let them know that while you understand they are having a tough time you’d appreciate they not direct their anger at you.
  7. Give them more space.
  8. Depending on the nature of your relationship you may choose to help them with things not related to their problem to help ease tension. For example: If it is my SO’s turn to do the dishes or cook and they are having a crap day then I’ll just do it for them and they’ll return the favor later.

I understand that we all deal with stress differently and that what may not make me upset may make my friends and family upset. I’ve struggled in the past with being the sort of person, who just tried to fix everyone and everything and in the process just made it worse, because I was unable to recognize some people’s need for space and/or privacy even if was just a temporary thing. Also, I tended to react without listening fully.

I’ve been trying to apply these steps in my real life and I hope it helps some of you like it does me.

-Star

 

Be Your Own Architect

A big sign of personal growth is realizing that you are dealing with things in your life better than you used to, but realizing this only after the situation occurs or at least much further into it. (As opposed to actively having to figure out how to mentally handle every new thing at its start.)

When you work hard enough to be a better, kinder, more centered you, eventually it comes more easily.

I don’t just write about trying to live a better, more positive, freer, karma friendly life. I try to live it to the best of my own abilities. I’ve spent so much time, focusing on getting rid of negative thoughts, working towards better karma, happiness, and overall balance, that I can now do things that would have been much more challenging in the past, often without even thinking about them. I just start innately doing the best possible thing. Whether it’s being kind to people I’ve have issues with in the past or dealing with the big stuff life throws my way that I can’t control with as much grace and dignity as possible. (I’ve also seen a remarkable shift in my stress levels lowering.)

Be your own Architect, build your self up to be centered, clam and kind. Negativity is easy, but it will never very make you the best you can be.

 

-Star

Life: Opportunities vs Roadblocks

 

 

Life isn’t just about the things we can control, and those we can’t control. It is about how we choose to view the world around us.

Nothing can do wonders quite like changing your outlook. I realize how much my life has changed from teaching myself to redirect negative thoughts and feelings and search for what else I may get out of a situation.

The more you inject positive and rational responses into your daily life, the easier it becomes and the lighter you feel.

Search for Opportunities where others see Roadblocks.

For Example:

When I don’t know something, instead of getting defensive or frustrated, I use it as a chance to learn. If someone is cruel to me or hurts me. I use this as a chance to understand that person, understand humanity and myself.

Even if it’s a relationship that ends or a job. Instead of just being angry or sad, I now try focus on what good was in it. What did I learn from this? How will this help me be a better person and find a person or job that is better for me?

If I have a limitation or I am in some sort of minority group then I don’t look at myself as disadvantaged. Instead, I look at myself as being capable of being more kind and compassionate, because of the life and situations I’ve experienced.

I started with just dealing with the everyday small things more positively, to help me eventually tackle the bigger things.

Small, continually changes to into more positive perspective can change your life. 

-Star

 

 

 

 

 

 

Karma: Energy Starts With You

To attain good Karma you must put good energy into the universe.

Do not expect to have good things and energy come your way without effort.

Making sure you take care of yourself is a very important part of this.

If you do not take care of yourself and have good energy and within yourself, what you put back into the universe will be limited.

If you take care of yourself, the good energy you put back into the universe may be limitless. 

-Star

 

Mistakes and Challenges: Perception Counts.

We make mistakes, and we come up against challenges frequently but it’s how we handle these things that mold us.

Do we break down?

Do we give up?

Do we pass our troubles off to someone else?

Or do we work hard, push on through, and ask for help when needed?

Of course some things we cannot control. In these cases, it is how we handle them that matters.

If we can handle the hard moments, with dignity and pride, and put as much good energy into a bad energy situations as possible we will see more positive outcomes. Even if the only outcome is better mental stability, peace of mind, happiness, and the creation of more positive energy in the universe.

The problems we face and mistakes we make only drag us down when we let them. Of course, we are not perfect, but if we strive to have a better outlook on life, we will see how much better our lives can be.

-Star

The Evolution of the Religious

 A person could read every text from and about a single religion, talk to people in the religion, even be part of that religion and STILL not understand it fully. Why? This is because religion and individuals are constant evolving.

In the history of the world, there have always been lives lost, people harmed and discriminated against basis on religion. What many of us fail to see this that, regardless of a religion’s text, rules, laws, governing, etc.., there will always be some of its followers who either stay steady in the whatever they consider its original intent to be or others who see the need to either push change, or to at least, make changes within themselves. Over the last 50 years or so, we’ve seen some religions evolve, maybe because they realize the only way to survive is to become kinder and more accepting? Even the church I was raised in as a child didn’t allow people of color to hold certain positions until 1978. Crazy, Right? Even now, you can have two churches in the same town, preaching the same religion, but one has evolved to be kinder and more accepting. Change in religion comes slowly but it comes.

Individuals are much the same. They may follow a religion, it may be an intricate part of their life, but they may actively or passively remove themselves from the negative elements of their belief system. They may stay with a religion despite not accepting some of the elements of it. They may live in a state of cognitive dissonance, constantly reconciling, and trying to make their religion and personal beliefs fit together. (Some/Many people spend their whole lives this way.)

We cannot understand what a person believes based solely on their religion because people are too complex. We do not know what goes on in the mind of the individual, we do not know if someone is hoping for things in their faith to change. We cannot know for certain if they will be kind and honest despite their belief system calling for something else towards some people, and we do not know what kind of cognitive dissonance a person is dealing with. Assuming that we understand any other human we do not know intimately is one of the worst mistakes we can make. (Especially since many of us do not fully understand ourselves.)

I as an individual I can condemn hate, violence, bigotry, and oppression. I also cannot personally judge an individual based on their belief system, without knowing what they personally believe. With some religions, it may be near impossible to know what someone really believes due to the nature of their belief system and where or if they diverge from their religious teaching. In these cases, I advise caution over hatred and judgment. (Hate only begets more hate.) If you decide to be cautious, don’t forget to be kind and lead by example!

I am not a perfect individual, but I will continue to decide my feelings about other human being basis on how they treat me and how they treat others. I will not be judge and jury over another human being because their religion, I only will hope the best for them. I will hope they are or will become a kind, loving person, regardless of anything else.

– Star

 

 

 

 

Achieving the Unattainable

I am always trying to find balance in everything in life. (Mostly because I spent my youth without it.) Expecting to achieve that perfect balance in all aspects of our lives is an unattainable goal. While we should not expect perfection, we should continue to strive for balance anyways. (We cannot expect  perfection because we cannot control the actions of others or the world around us, and trying to leads to more chaos/unbalance.)

One of the things we need to strive for balance is in self-care and care for others. If we only ever put ourselves first there is no balance, or if we only ever put others first there is also a problem. (I’ve found myself in the latter category most of my life.)

On a daily basis, I try to think, what do I have to do today? How could these things help or affect my partner, pets, family, and friends etc… How can I help others while helping myself?

Working towards balance in this and all things is one of the most centering, rewarding, and often helpful things we can do for ourselves and others in this existence.

-Star