Life isn’t just about the things we can control, and those we can’t control. It is about how we choose to view the world around us.
Nothing can do wonders quite like changing your outlook. I realize how much my life has changed from teaching myself to redirect negative thoughts and feelings and search for what else I may get out of a situation.
The more you inject positive and rational responses into your daily life, the easier it becomes and the lighter you feel.
Search for Opportunities where others see Roadblocks.
When I don’t know something, instead of getting defensive or frustrated, I use it as a chance to learn. If someone is cruel to me or hurts me. I use this as a chance to understand that person, understand humanity and myself.
Even if it’s a relationship that ends or a job. Instead of just being angry or sad, I now try focus on what good was in it. What did I learn from this? How will this help me be a better person and find a person or job that is better for me?
If I have a limitation or I am in some sort of minority group then I don’t look at myself as disadvantaged. Instead, I look at myself as being capable of being more kind and compassionate, because of the life and situations I’ve experienced.
I started with just dealing with the everyday small things more positively, to help me eventually tackle the bigger things.
Small, continually changes to into more positive perspective can change your life.
Can diving deep into our own family histories help us better understand and be more compassionate to others?
I have been wondering how to write this for awhile now.
Many of us have pride in our heritage, however, many of us never divide deep and see what really lies in the decades and centuries past.
I can trace one of my family lines back to around the 700s in Scotland. I can trace other roots to Sheriffs and Knights in Nottingham, England. I also have relatives from the Azores.
My personal levels of understanding and compassion, however, come from different lines of my family history. I recently stood in Plymouth on The National Day of Mourning, on the side of the Native Americans, and on the side of mother nature. (Water is life.) While there I also walked by a store named after a distant relative who came over on the Mayflower, and who’s son was accused in the Salem witch trails. ( Accused, most likely, for being allied with the Native Abenaki.) I also have Native American Ancestry (Penobscot and Cherokee, perhaps others.)
I am a product of more than one side of history. This has allowed me not to hate anyone group of people, but to examine people’s actions on an individual level. If people in my time are doing things, that harm others, their rights, or mother earth I will stand up to it. I will condone past negative actions of some of my ancestors and praise the ones that tried to be kind and break down boundaries. I hope to do a DNA test some day to explore my ancestry even more.
In short, I believe that if more of us traced, and understood the history and actions of our ancestors, many, if not most of us, would see we are descended from many groups of people and not just the ones passed down by word of mouth. The more we can see how we are interconnected as people, the more we understand and the less hate we bring to the table, and the more compassion we may be capable of the developing.
Understanding ourselves, helps us understand others.
PS. If you’ve ever been interested in family history or DNA test, I implore you to explore them, especially if you find yourself lost in this divided world. You never know what kind of insight you’ll find.
Be brave today.
It doesn’t matter what form it comes it. It doesn’t matter if it’s not brave to someone else.
It doesn’t matter if you are jumping from a plane or just taking that one step out your own front door.
It doesn’t matter if you find the courage to talk to a group of people or just one special one.
It doesn’t matter the size of the act of braveness, as long as it’s good.
Adventure is Brave. Self-care when all seems lost is also brave.
Wherever you are in the world today be brave.
“We are not our past; we are the people we have decided to become at this moment. Do not let anyone tell you people never change. People change when they want to. People change with time… Do not let people think you are the same person of 5 and 10 years past…”
-Star (Part of an FB post from 6 years ago.)